大家或許都會用「親人朋友的痛苦」、「影響社會成本」以及「解決不了事情」
 
種種現實層面的問題來對自殺的人進行譴責,然而會走上
                                                                               
自殺滅亡這麼一條道路的人,說實在的...那時的他,已經不是平常的他了。
                                                                               
                                                                               
自殺的人,會決定要自殺,肯定是解決不了事情、或者對未來「完全」不抱有希望~
 
通常自殺的人在決定自殺之前,會對週遭的人事進行一次
                                                                               
巡禮,希望在其中找到值得羈絆留戀的動力,然而由於自殺的本願蟄伏
                                                                               
在意識的深處,所以他所能找到的...都是周遭人世的無情以及悲涼...
或許他根本就是要找刺激自己自殺的動力~在這段期間,這個人有沒有
                                                                               
得救全憑接觸的朋友之敏銳度。
                                                                               
                                                                               
譬如說,他可能會去找個朋友聊天,避開自己面對的壓力不談,反而去
                                                                               
講一些珍惜過往的話並對未來抱有一絲羨渴~
                                                                               
                                                                               
自殺者:「長期以來受你照顧了」
                                                                               
朋友:「白痴喔,說這種話幹嘛?」
                                                                               
自殺者:「你以後結婚會生幾個小孩...」
                                                                               
朋友:「幹嘛?!我連女朋友都沒有」
                                                                               
自殺者:「還記得那次我們去公園喝酒,我忘了說謝謝...」
                                                                               
朋友:「你今天怪怪的喔...」
 
 
基本上,自殺的人通常都會「很有」徵兆...講話語氣平靜哀傷無力,
                                                                               
跟別人講話會嚴重地心不在焉。只要聽到別人對「未來的瞻望」就會
                                                                               
露出神傷不已的表情(因為他的未來是根本不存在的)。而將近自殺之
                                                                               
際,該人會被一種濃濃的惆悵思緒給籠罩,這時便是末期。在這段期
                                                                               
間,他需要跟「死亡的痛苦」搏鬥...也就是說,若是他哀傷到不懼怕
                                                                               
自殺的方法所帶來身體崩解上的痛苦,那麼這人毫無意外的會繼續前
                                                                               
往那道輪迴的大門。倘若他始終沒有戰勝面臨死亡恐懼痛苦的勇氣,
                                                                               
也許這次的關頭一過、不久便會在晴朗的天空下覺得自己之前怎麼會
                                                                               
有那麼傻的念頭,相反地...一直持續給他不斷的壓力源,再膽小的人
                                                                               
也會因為一時衝動而縱身躍下月台、大海、山谷之類不瑣碎的自我毀
                                                                               
滅之地。
 
自殺的人在甫自殺前的心境,是哀傷且祥和的...看看陳進興就知道,
                                                                               
當初犯下名震一時的滔天大罪,在面臨槍決前,也是會尋求宗教的皈
                                                                               
依以及希望能夠捐出身體器官遺愛人間。人之將死、其行也善...真的
                                                                               
走到這一步的人,夾雜在生平的種種以及身後的未知之間,是個茫然
                                                                               
迷途的可憐蟲~龐大且寂寞的壓力始終在他身邊周遊,這時他會將以前
                                                                               
的東西拿出來看,然後在無人的時候對著一些小飾品小玩具碎碎念...
                                                                               
                                                                               
「我的鞋子,謝謝你載我走過那麼多辛苦的歲月,你累了、我也累了
                                                                               
,我們一起休息吧」
                                                                               
                                                                               
「我的房間,謝謝你讓我在你裡面渡過了那麼多溫暖的日子~謝謝...」
                                                                               
                                                                               
然後他會把自身的物品收拾得非常乾淨~任何不潔有暇的他都會丟棄,
保持一種純淨的美麗在他生前所居住過的地方。很反常地...這時期的
                                                                               
人,是極度容易受到感動而被救活的!我只能說在這段時期自殺者的
                                                                               
心,真的是「佛心」!他們敏銳纖細的情感以及靈魂會受到一點點小
                                                                               
小的波動而鼓舞~假使這人從打定主意要自殺並前往絕境的這麼一段路
                                                                               
沒有遇到阻礙,那麼人間從此就會少了一名這麼樣的人;不過也是有
                                                                               
人在將要自殺之際,看到小貓小狗抱在一起那種相依相惜的情況,便
                                                                               
決定打消主意回頭重新思考的...
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
面對要自殺的朋友或著親人,在獲救的當下,什麼都不要說...只要給
                                                                               
他抱就好了~抱得越緊這股力量就越強大!!!言語在這時反而是刺傷
對方的利器~自殺獲救的人除了原先承擔促使他自殺的壓力源無法解除
                                                                               
外,在獲救之後,還多了一項「自殺被發現、沒死...丟臉!!!」的
                                                                               
壓力,所以講「你怎麼那麼傻?」、「想想你家人呀」之類的話...
                                                                               
有時候還是會造成自殺者更大的心理負擔的。你只要說「我永遠支持
                                                                               
你」、「你是我那麼愛的人,我不想你死!」之類...讓他覺得
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
「是別人愛他的多」而不是「他欠別人的多」
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
那麼這人將會在朋友以及家人的簇擁下,重新站起來並走到陽光底下的
,而過了許多年之後,你會很開心看到他之後仍然可以活得很快樂~~~~
                                                                               
多多關心身邊的人吧!也許他是注定要跟你做一輩子朋友的那個,不要
                                                                               
讓他寂寞的死去...

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